I heard the following question asked in a meeting recently: if someone talked to you the way you talk to yourself would you allow them to continue speaking? The question made me pause and think. I can say with absolute confidence that some of my self-talk has not always been kind and if anyone else would have said it to me I probably would have cried.
It is interesting how that happens. How quickly we turn on ourselves. Thankfully I am not in that place any longer. Thankfully I have learned the power my words possess. The difference this mind shift has made has been incredible not only to my confidence but to my health and even how others perceive me.
If you find yourself getting into situations where that little voice inside of your head begins to get loud and mean use any of these 4 phrases to lift yourself to where you belong:
1. You Got This!
Now you have to say this phrase with a smile of determination and grit. Often times we find ourselves in situations that have us feeling so defeated and hopeless and worthless. As soon as these feelings start creeping in we have to stop them and tell ourselves, “You Got This!”
2. You Are Enough!
Job loss. Strained relationships. Bad credit. Perceived failures. Comparisons. We are not defined by our situations, because our situations are temporary. Where we stand at this moment in our lives is temporary. Others might not know your worth but trust that “You Are Enough!”
3. You Are Gorgeous!
There is no shortage of air brushed beauties and photoshopped cuties. Enough daily bombardment of these images will make a person go on crazy, unhealthy diets. Instead of tearing yourself down because you aren’t losing the weight or your hair is not cooperating, tell yourself “You Are Gorgeous!
4. You Have Something Bigger Waiting!
The Rolling Stones put it best when they said “you can’t always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you find, you get what you need.” Yes, it feels terrible when we do not get what we want, what he have been praying for, what we feel we deserve. We have to believe that something bigger is waiting for us. So when things don’t turn out right tell yourself, “You Have Something Bigger Waiting!”
The Bible says in James 3:5 “In the same way, the tongue is a small thing, that makes grand speeches. But a tiny spark can set a great forest on fire.” OUR WORDS ARE POWERFUL! The things that we say not only out loud but also to ourselves when our lips don’t move are powerful. The more we say things the more we begin to believe them. Change the negative words into more empowering, confident, stellar words that truly capture you.
Pick a phrase from above today and commit to saying it to yourself at least 5 times. Do the same the thing tomorrow. And the next day. Notice that changes that take place: how you speak, how you carry yourself, how others approach you.
Do you have other phrases you use? Tell us about them in the comments below.